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Center of Wholeness
“Women must come of age by herself, This is the essence of ‘coming of age’ - to learn not to depend on another, nor to feel she must prove her strength by competing with another. In the past, she has swung between these two opposite poles of dependence and competition, of Victorianism and Feminism. Both extremes throw her off balance; neither is the center, the true center of being a whole woman. She must find her true center alone. She must become whole. She must, it seems to me, as a prelude to any ‘two solitude’s’ relationship, follow the advice of the poet to become ‘world to oneself for another’s sake.’ In fact, I wonder if both man and women must not accomplish this heroic feat. Must not man also become world to himself? Must he not also expand the neglected sides of his personality; the art of inward looking that he has seldom had time for in his active outward-going life; the personal relationships which he has not had as much chance to enjoy; the so-called feminine qualities, aesthetic, emotional, cultural and spiritual, which he has been too rushed to fully develop. Perhaps men and women in America (or anywhere else for that matter) may hunger, in our material, outward active, masculine culture, for the supposedly feminine qualities of heart, mind and spirit - qualities which are actually neither masculine nor feminine , but simply human qualities that have been long neglected. It is growth along these lines that will make us whole, and will enable us the individual to become world to himself.”
Gift from the Sea
ANNE MORROW LINDBERGH
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ANNE MORROW LINDBERGH
**I have to recommend this beautiful little book to you it is full of beauty and wisdom, and one of those that I want buy for everyone I know**
How much time spent on developing and nurturing yourself constitutes
selfishness. If we develop ourselves in all the finer aspects of being
human and being humane, are we not in the long run more beneficial to
our fellow human beings?
Independent development within a community or society contributes to
the growth of the individual and the society wherein s/he operates. If
we develop those finer qualities of heart, mind and spirit of
emotional, cultural, spiritual and aesthetics in balance with what is
regarded as more aggressive, competitive male qualities then only, can
we claim to be whole. It is when we come together as “halves” that our
relationships with other people fail. You need to be a whole to attract
a whole. When two halves come together they become dependent on the
representative qualities in one another, that they lack in themselves,
and so become dysfunctional. Realize that dependence lessens us. When
we are whole human beings that need people but can exist with ourselves
alone, then we become a world to our self for the sake of others.
24 March 1997
